A few weeks ago, I overheard a conversation that has troubled me ever since. They were discussing having children, and one of the people said, having children is what gives life meaning. Seriously? Passing on DNA is the meaning of life? Now, don’t get me wrong, having children is a blessing, and definitely gives life more meaning, but is it THE meaning of life?
What about those of us who have been unable to have children? (approximately 15% of couples in North America and Europe suffer infertility) Does our life have less meaning? And what about those who have lost children? If the child is what gave their life meaning, no wonder they can’t move past the pain of the loss. It’s also a lot of pressure to put on a child when you have them- the underlying thought that they gave your life meaning.
No, I think there must be a deeper meaning to life. One where the addition of children blesses that meaning, but isn’t the sole purpose. Now, I’m not claiming to know the meaning of life- a subject philosophers have pondered through the ages. I do, however, believe that the meaning is found through a relationship- just not the relationship we have with our children. The joy of having children is to teach them to experience this meaningful relationship for themselves. Then, as they grow, it is a joy you can share together as you each experience the relationship in your own unique way.
For those of you who haven’t figured it out, I’m speaking of the relationship I have with Christ. I suppose in one sense, the meaning of life is found in a relationship between Father and children. But we are all the children, and He is our Heavenly Father. We were created to live out of that relationship. If you believe in evolution, I guess it would be easy to believe that passing on DNA is the meaning of life, and that infertility is natural selection at work. I am so thankful that I have encountered the Truth, because believing that kids are the meaning of life would be a most discouraging, and disappointing path to walk.
As I pursue that relationship- the one with my Heavenly Father, I am confident that He will reveal the true meaning of life. Because our life does have a purpose, and I do have a destiny. Whether that destiny includes having children or not, my life still has meaning greater than I can imagine, and I know it will be mine and God’s great delight for Him to reveal it.
Well said my friend.
ReplyDeleteThe meaning of life to me, is to walk with my God, getting to know the depth of His love, Worshiping Him, allowing Him access to my heart so that He can make me a better mirror, so that others may see Him at work in, and through me.
The understanding that we are all his children brings responsibility to reflect Him and become better "keepers of His presence" You fulfill that role well. May His glory shine on and around you. Barc